In writing about Mark Carson’s funeral, the article says: “In a hall decorated with portraits of religious figures and the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., people from his family, work, church and social circles heard a scriptural exegesis with almost no mention of Mr. Carson’s life or the circumstances of his death until, toward the end…”
I’m not surprised by this, only put off.
I have personally witnessed ceremonies like this when attending funerals of persons who lived life as a SGL/T person. These ceremonies are often conspicuously silent on anything that might even hint that the person lived his or her life as a SGL/T person, and definitely not as a SGL/T person who had pride in who they were. Even if there might be a significant other who was in the relationship, that significant other is relegated to a status persona non-gratis. There is usually no mention of the deceased person’s loves or hobbies if that love of life might tell a story that might say, ‘he or she loved the life he or she lived and that included being same gender loving or trans’. This message would be unwelcome by certain traditions. It’s exactly why I have told my loved ones that upon my passing, if there should be any ceremonies, make sure it’s a ceremony that tells who I was, not who others wanted me to be.
Reading this article on Mark Carson’s funeral, I couldn’t help but think that Mark Carson was assailed twice: once on the streets of New York City and a second time in the funeral home where he was laid to rest.